By Clayton Max
Author of Infatuation Scripts
Relationship Problems - How to Avoid These 6 Big Mistakes Get Him to Notice You - And Stay with You Forever
Key Take-Aways for Relationship Problems
(1) − Changing your voice to ...
(2) − Over doing your ...
(3) − Pretending to be ...
(4) − The annoying habit of ...
(5) – Being Emotionally ...
(6) – Unnecessarily working to ...
"After women, flowers are the most-lovely thing God has given the world"
~ Christian Dior
Relationship problems can be overcome, if you will face the challenges head-on. It's unrealistic to want to be in the center of attention all the time, but it's not unfair to want the man you love to often notice you and make you feel like you are his "one-and-only." But trying too hard, to get him to notice you, could make your efforts “turn him off,” instead of “turning him on.”
In the following posts I will tell you how to get your man to notice you, but first, I’m going to give you a few cautionary words to help you avoid three relationship problems some women make in trying to get their man to notice them.
Relationship Problems (1)
Trying to get him to notice you, by Changing your voice.
Don’t talk baby talk. It may sound cute and sweet when you talk like a baby to your one-year old niece or nephew, but please, no baby talk to the man you are trying to impress. You want your lovely voice to attract him, not push him away.
And don’t always try to talk sexy like your favorite movie star. There’s nothing wrong with having fun and playfully sharing some well known sexy lines by your favorite actress, but not all the time. You may already have a sexy voice, and if so, that's great, but use your voice not some movie stars voice. Remember, you want him t be attracted to you, not some hottie on the screen.
One of the all time familiar lines from, the golden age of movies, is by Lauren Bacall (Marie “Slim” Browning) to Humphrey Bogart in the 1944 film, “Have and Have Not.” Just for fun, listen to the sexy Lauren Bacall when she asks Humphrey Bogart , "You know how to whistle don't you Steve? You just put your lips together and blow."
One of the all time familiar lines from the golden age of movies is by Lauren Bacall
(Marie “Slim” Browning) to Humphrey Bogart in the 1944 film, “Have and Have Not.”
It's fun to impersonate the lovely and sexy Lauren Bacall, but your man would love to see you playing your best role - YOU!
Here’s the problem, if you change your voice to make an impression, are you going to talk like that all the time? What’s going to happen when you have to return to talking like you? Help him to fall in love with you. Believe it or not, men are looking for women who are genuine.
Just be yourself and laugh and talk and share your God given voice and personality. Really, that’s all you honestly have to offer. Other than being you, you must be fake and believe me, he will soon discover the real you and your real voice.
Relationship Problems (2)
Trying to get him to notice you, by Over doing your make up.
No doubt you’ve heard the adage, concerning someone who is “plain” and fare skinned, that “If the barn needs a little paint, then paint it.” Well, there may be some truth in this negative adage. But it’s up to the individual. Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You will be surprised what really infatuates men.
In Relationship Problems No. 2, the key is to be yourself and not try to become someone you aren’t just to impress a man and to try and get his attention.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” ~Bernard M. Baruch
When any of us want to be our best and to come across as professional, friendly, lovely, charming or whatever, then we need to clean up, dress up, shape up and be up emotionally in-order to make a good impression.
But to cake on the makeup, over do the eyelashes, wear a super bright red or purple lipstick that doesn’t match your skin color or personality will only make you look foolish and give the impression that you are insecure. Many relationship problems are embedded in inferiority and insecurity
Once again, being the best you, you can be will go along ways to attracting a man. There’s nothing wrong to wear make and give yourself a little color and protection from the weather, but one day the makeup will come off and you want him to love you for the natural person you are.
Relationship Problems (3)
Trying to get him to notice you, by Pretending to be someone you aren’t.
We’ve talked about baby-talk and too much makeup as being a way to hide instead of showing the man we want to attract, the real us. We could add glasses, wigs, bright hair coloring, breast-implants, long false finger nails and so on. I wonder if sometimes, we aren’t trying to cover up our personal problems and relationship problems by all of these “add-ons.”
In themselves, there’s nothing wrong with any of these added cosmetic features that change our appearance. But we must ask ourselves, is this really me and how do I feel about myself wearing all of these “add-ons?” You and I must learn to be confident in who we are. Someone said, "Just be you, but be the best you, you can be."
The way we talk, walk, and the personality we were given at birth is who we are and what we have to offer. If we try to avoid who we are, we are setting ourselves up for relationship problems.
"Don't put me on a pedestal, for I am sure to fall. Just love me as I am, flaws and all" ~Anonymous
You could carry costly bags, wear glamorous clothes, wear a new pair of shoes every time you met him and offer to take him to a restaurant you are unfamiliar with and be embarrassed and unprepared to pick up the tab, just to impress him. But don’t you think he will eventually catch on and see you for who you are? Fake!
Should we change anything about ourselves? Maybe, but the choice must come from us and not unfounded misbeliefs such as, “if he really gets to know me, he won’t like me.” This misbelieve, will only keep you constantly changing and pushing men away instead of attracting and getting the man you really want to notice you. Be your lovely and wonderful self – regardless of whether you get the man of your dreams or not. At least you will have your pride and integrity.
Ok - that's a little relationship advice concerning relationship problems. In part two, I will share three more Big Mistakes you will want to avoid, if you want him to notice you.
In part 2, we will dig into three more Big Mistakes to avoid, in-order to get him to notice you.
But, before you go to part 2 (Click Here) I have something very important to share with you regarding how you can change your love life forever by using the little known, but powerful psychological information that can turn your relationship problems around in a passionate heart-beat.
Relationship Problems are certainly evident when you, maybe even unknowingly, push the man away that you love – instead of making him desire you more. Watch the video below right now, by psychologist and relationship expert, Clayton Max. He will easily and quickly tell you how you can avoid making the Big Mistake of pushing a man away. You will hear what to say that will make him want you, desire you, love you and be obsessed by you from the first time he meets you.
What you will learn in this short amazing video will help equip you in saying the right things, that will cause him not to be able to think of another woman in a romantic way like he does you.
Would you like to know how to make a man get hooked only on you, or how to make him fall in love with you – all over again? Then Click on the video below...